Supporting Is Solving

Commiserating, relating to and validating one another’s experiences and its collective aftermath, and naturally or purposefully problem-solving is what we do in supportive groups online & in-person all the time, with one overlapping the other serving dual purposes at times. Healing and recovering is a solution, and we are each in varying states of that, with our sharing an integral contributing factor.

Sometimes it may feel no solutions are forthcoming when we do share our experiences and pain, but just the act of doing that is a solution. There’ve been times when we’ve felt so frustrated that there wasn’t more to do toward ensuring a more comprehensive solution, and that’s what’s led us to write blogs, record videos, start support groups, publish books, and produce programs on the topic. It is all problem-solving, and there’s more to do that each of us so inclined can participate in doing or initiate ourselves.

There is a movement taking place right here & now to raise awareness, and we seeking support are part of why. Whether or not any individual involved has specifically done anything to educate the public, it has been our gathering and sharing that has sparked it.

Ask Why of Those Who Know

By now most have read or heard about the Penn State University scandal involving a hoard of culprits covering up the alleged sexual abuse perpetrated by Assistant Coach, Gerald Arthur (Jerry) Sandusky.

The mother of Sandusky's “Victim #1” says she just wants to ask him, “Why?”

It is so frustrating that those victimized reliably & repeatedly express that.

Chances are in cases such as this that the perpetrator is a psychopath. There is no “getting to the heart” of a psychopath, because no matter how deep down one digs, there’s still no heart. There is no getting the truth from one, because they seldom tell it, and if they do, it’s for their own personal gain or to further harm others.

Ask, “Why,” but don't ask it of the psychopath; ask it of those who’ve been studying them and diligently searching for ways to proactively protect good & decent people from them with awareness and prevention.

Not only that, when we ask it merely feeds their pleasure at our pain. They feel only contempt for we weird loving people with empathy and a collective conscience. Pleading with them or expressing our grief just plays into their game, a side benefit to their devastating doings in a game they intend to win.